When we were created it was in wholeness and perfection. Everything from our eye color, the amount of hairs in our heads, and the shape of our nose was defined in that little dot we were in the beginning. If those details were defined for us in the beginning, doesn't it make sense that in the same dot was also our purpose and everything we would every need to carry it out including love, wholeness, and happiness? Do you think God would have created us and then forgot to give us the love and support we needed in that dot? I don't think so, why would it be left out. That would be like planting a seed and then forgetting the water! God - in all that perfect energy - would never make such a mistake.
This reality teaches us that we acquire love, happiness, and self-esteem from our parents. We are taught to reach out to them and demand a good upbringing with security, health, happiness, support, and anything else we require. In case you haven't noticed, that concept isn't working.
If we are whole from the beginning, complete with the love and support we need to carry out our journey, then why do we need to get it from our family?
Learning to find happiness with yourself will naturally show you how to escape family problems and gift you with the ability to find happiness in a difficult time.
Maybe the source of all the dysfunction is our continual and habitual desire to get our happiness and support from our families when it was never meant to be acquired there to begin with. In addition, when they don't have the support to give, or they simply give it in a way that doesn't suit us then that creates a problem doesn't it? It creates lots of family problems and drama.